If there's no escaping family pressures and you want to keep a healthy relationship with them, ultimately, you gotta do what you gotta do. It's crucial to not lose sight of your individuality and reasonable to still keep your family close. You can make your own decisions and still consider your family's expectations. At some point they'll either accept your decisions or they won't. And if they don't that's their problem. You have to create a life you want to live. It would not be worth it to please your family for something you don't want to do. Shame on them for not accepting your decisions and who you want to be. I would hope that they would realize their mistake and that they miss you and eventually be able to accept your decisions.